Reddit User Asks If Men Should Ask Other Men For Permission To Marry Their Daughter? People Answer

Asking a father’s permission to marry his daughter is a traditional custom practised for many years in various cultures. 

The practice is rooted in the idea that a woman is her father’s property until she marries, and that the father has the ultimate authority to approve or deny any marriage proposal. 

However, in modern times, the practise is seen by many as outdated and sexist, as it reinforces patriarchal attitudes that treat women as property rather than autonomous individuals with the ability to make their own decisions.

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Reddit user’s question on asking the father for permission to marry his daugther sparks debate 

There is only one straightforward requirement when it comes to a woman’s marriage: the man must get the father’s approval. This is very common, particularly in India.

Since the invention of the idea of marriage, it has existed. However, not everyone is in favour of this practise given the changing times and the strong independence of women. 

A Reddit user elaborated on the same and posed this query to start a conversation. “How do you feel about men asking other men for permission to marry their daughter?” wrote the user and garnered tons of responses. 

Women came forward with answers 

The majority of women emphasised that asking for a father’s approval implies that the woman is his “property.”  

A woman wrote, “Gross. I’m not a man’s property, I can make my own choices. My husband did have a talk with my family about marriage before we got engaged, but that was after we discussed it just us two, and he was in no way “asking for permission”.”

Another added, ”

This is a tradition from the past that needs to stay in the past. Women are not property. Whatever “respect” is being shown to a future father-in-law is not worth the total disrespect being shown to a future partner.”

“Similar to women having their father give them away when they get married. I am a whole entire individual who belongs to no one but myself. I’ll give my partner permission to marry me when he asks and I’ll walk myself down the aisle,” wrote another.

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