China’s youth have come up with a way to deal with difficult relationships. Those seeking companionship opt for temporary mates to avoid toxicity. The unique style of social connection, known as da zi in Chinese, alludes to the premise that “everything can be matched” and has little to do with gender or even knowing the person before meeting.
The idea of choosing people with similar interests is at the heart of this unusual social connection, which has little to do with gender or even knowing the person.
According to the latest article by the South China Morning Post (SCMP), young people in China are looking for these “temporary partners” on social media platforms such as Xiaohongshu. They are looking for people with similar interests in food, gaming, fitness, travel, farming, conversing, and listening to music.
Love Without Labels: To Avoid Complicated Relationships, China’s Youth Choose Temporary Partners
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These partners are not required to meet in person; they can interact daily on WeChat and similar platforms.
“Having a stranger oversee it ensures that we both take it seriously. If I ask a friend or family member to do it, I may not take it seriously and even dispute with them,” one of the young people with a temporary partner told SCMP.
The concept gained popularity since young people felt lonely and wanted to keep their own space and independence.
“I am truly lonely but not fond of initiating social interactions.” I’m hoping to meet a stranger who won’t pry into my life but can keep me from watching movies or eating hotpot alone,” one of the trend’s participants said.
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However, some people are disappointed when looking at such couples. A 20-year-old told the publication that he planned a supper with a male companion but had to be a good listener during the discussion.
In another case, the man recalled developing romantic feelings for a temporary female companion who was already in a relationship.
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The development of transitory relationships among young Chinese people reflects a broader societal change towards prioritising personal growth and exploration over traditional relationship rules.
It remains to be seen how this tendency will affect the future of dating, marriage, and family dynamics in China as societal attitudes shift. Balancing personal aspirations with societal standards is an ongoing struggle for today’s youth, generating discussions about the modern definitions of love, commitment, and fulfilment.
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